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Is Finding the Right One a Myth? Does True Love really exist? December 27, 2008

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By Gina Alzate, The Concept Whiz

I went through a novel journey to self-discovery these past few months.  Ironically at first, I thought I was experiencing something magical at the time.  I thought the Universe finally heard me wondering “When is my Beloved coming into my life?” and had sent me an answer.  Well, it turned out that my wondering manifested my dark shadows disguised as my Beloved.

My soap opera began when I encouraged myself to take a break from taking inner journeys to my soul, which I have done steadily for over three years now, and venture to the wonderland of make-believe. This wonderland is all about the nature of true love.  Oh, yes!  True Love.

I know several people who speak of living long and loving lives with their true love, and continue to live with the spirit of true love even though their spouses have long passed away.  A few couples I know are living witnesses of how one could find true love when we meet the Right One. Yet, I also know there are those who wonder if  true love truly exists.

In my search for spiritual truths, I learned possible ways to manifest my Beloved’s presence in my current life, ranging from settling past life issues and karmic ties to engaging the laws of attraction, manifestation and detachment.  I learned how angels, spirit guides and our deceased loved ones could help us in meeting our Beloved.  I learned that engaging in inner work to allow my Light to shine forth will attract my Beloved.  I also learned that by working on becoming the Beloved I want for myself will also attract my Beloved to me.  Intuitives tell me time and time again, they see a Great Love coming into my life.  Then, I wonder how do they know this and I do not?

I thought I  have done all I could to learn how to attract my Beloved, my Soulmate.  So, I ask the Universe, “When will my Beloved finally come into my life?”  After a few mantras along the same line, he showed up.  Really, he did!

Well, it turned out that what I wished for did come true, at least in my imagination.  What the Universe gave me was another life lesson embodied through one person, posing as my Beloved.  I could have known the joke was on me just so I could openly engage my own dark shadows.

What shadows am I talking about?  Well, they were my own antiquated views of relationships, my unfinished businesses of the past, my unresolved issues within me.   I suppose the Universe wanted me to realize whether or not I truly learned my lessons in self-love, being of integrity with my Higher Self, and accepting both my light and my shadows.

As difficult and challenging as these lessons had been, they were enlightening and humbling experiences laced with highly charged emotional drama.  Yes, no lessons are memorable without the drama!  When the roller coaster rides and the dizzying swirling finally stopped, I found my bearing as I flopped unto the ground.  A little dazed and confused, I dusted myself off and forced myself to get up. Then I found myself alone once more.

What was that twirling all about?  All this time, I thought my Beloved would be someone to come into my life, my twin flame.  In my readings to gain spiritual understanding, I learned how Twin Flames are truly the integration of the masculine and feminine energies within a person, the fusion of a person’s divinity and humanity, the merging of both the person’s light and shadows, the person’s Being as One with Spirit.

At the end of the day, when all is said and done, reality sets in.  The idea of Twin Flames is easy to say but not so easy to do.  It had not been all that simple to think my Beloved had been with me all along, right in my heart.  Who comes up with these ideas?

So, what did I learn from my Higher Self?  Before the Right One for me could come into my life, I first must learn to complete, accept and love me for who I am inside and out.  Our relationships with others are truly remarkable in how they mirror our relationships with ourselves.

Well, I believe I have intellectualized it fully enough to write a dissertation on the topic.  However, the human in me still wants to know in practical terms, “When is my Beloved coming into my life?”

About Gina Alzate

Gina Alzate is The Concept Whiz. She is Holistic Life Designs’ Metaphysical Therapy Educator. She is Host of several online radio talk shows and Broadcaster for World Radio 365. She is a lifelong student of Leadership and Empowerment, World Travels and Diverse Cultures, Metaphysics, Holistic Health and Spirituality. She teaches about human consciousness and personal awareness through radio broadcasting, writing and workshops on land and at sea. Contact her through World Tours and Cruises. Follow her on Twitter @GinaAlzate.

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1. love psychic readings - December 27, 2008

I agree with your lesson, when you love yourself, it goes out to the people and attract them to you. Why would someone love you if you do not love yourself.
How can you love someone else if you do not love yourself?
The answer is, no way.
And even if you are an actor and you can show that you love yourself while in did you don’t, it won’t work, it may work and you may attract someone but, in a short period he will see the truth, and guess what, the love will crush.
The only way is the natural way!

You must read this love story: http://freepsychicandtarotreadings.com/blog/love-psychic-reading-that-came-true/

Happy new year!

2. msfuddle - January 14, 2009

Hi. This is the first time I’ve visited your blog and your post really grabbed me.

I have a few failed relationships behind me and a lot of the reason for the failures is no doubt down to the fact that I didn’t love myself but who I thought I was and they’re two entirely different things. This year I’ve decided that I’m going to find myself again (I did know myself once) and concentrate on accepting and loving myself, warts and all. If The Right One comes into my life eventually that’d be great, but I’m putting myself first now rather than trying to find Him.